Recap of your options
Allegations against you
Creating a positive culture.
Talk about the effect of bullying using the discussion guide in 'Creating a positive culture'. Practice using the ABC of Appreciation and BUILD constructive feedback tools. Make conversations about behaviour the norm in your team.
The behaviour may be acceptable.
Your intention was in their best interests, but could you adapt what you do to be taken better? What support do you need?
There are often grey areas between what different people see as acceptable, for example the tone of voice people use, or how we are feeling more broadly when others speak to us, can make a big difference. Take a moment to step into the other person’s shoes, think about your own reaction, and resolve the issue together.
This is a one-off act of inappropriate behaviour.
We all have different perspectives. You may not have meant it, but can see how it could be taken that way. Use the ‘give / get’ model to see their point of view, and how you might do things differently.
This is very inappropriate behaviour and possibly bullying.
Review your options in the ‘I’ve had an allegation made against me’ guide
- If someone has given you feedback they are trying to de-escalate
- Write down both sides of the story
- Talk to someone
- Reflect and consider if you could have done things differently
- Ask yourself why this happened
- Don’t wait to ask for support if you need it